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Most People Don’t Disclose Their Suicidal Thoughts

Here’s why and what we can do about it.

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  • Less than half of people talk about having suicidal thoughts or behaviors.

  • Talking about suicidal thoughts is the best way to help, and to get help.

  • Suicidal thoughts are common, you're not alone.


Many people at risk of suicide are going undetected and unsupported in our community, our research suggests.


Our recently published study found under half of the people tell anyone they’re thinking of suicide, making plans, or have attempted suicide.


Here are some reasons why people don’t often talk about this and what you can do to help a friend or loved one get the support they need.


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We’re Getting No Better at Predicting


Worldwide, more than 700,000 people take their life each year. Globally, suicide is the fourth leading cause of death among 15–29-year-olds.


But our ability to predict who might have suicidal thoughts and behaviors or end their life has not really improved over 50 years of research.


Because suicide is relatively infrequent (as a percentage of the population), it is difficult to identify robust risk factors for suicide we can generalize across the population.


We need to know who’s at risk.


One of the most crucial steps in understanding and managing the risk of suicide is for individuals to disclose their suicidal thoughts and behaviors to other people. It also gives us a chance to mobilise support.


However, when colleagues and I looked at the evidence, we found less than 50 percent of people tell anyone else about their suicidal thoughts or behaviors.


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Even if they had these thoughts or behaviors over the past month, only an estimated 38 percent of people told anyone. Most people don’t ever disclose any suicidal thoughts or behaviors, however long ago these occurred.


Most people don’t ever disclose suicidal thoughts or behaviors, however long ago these occurred.


Our study was a meta-analysis, which combined information from almost 100 studies to estimate how commonly people disclosed.


Women were slightly more likely to disclose than men, and disclosure was more likely when associated with a psychiatric disorder.


Notably, among studies of people who had died by suicide, close to 60 percent of people had no documented evidence of telling someone they had thoughts or plans of ending their life.


Put simply; the findings suggest a large number of people at risk of suicide are undetected and unsupported.


Why don’t people say anything?


Reasons people don’t disclose thoughts of suicide include stigma and shame about having the thoughts, fear of rejection or unsupportive reactions from others, concerns about burdening other people, and believing nothing can be done.


Worrying about the consequences of telling other people, such as being hospitalised or receiving unwanted treatment, might be particularly important when people have had negative experiences with disclosure.


A lack of confidence in expressing oneself is another significant barrier. Some people avoid thinking or talking about it as their main coping method.


Having more social support can increase the likelihood of disclosing suicidal thoughts. This is important, given most disclosures are made to family or friends. Increased understanding and knowledge about suicide are also linked with a higher likelihood of disclosure.


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How do we start conversations?


Public campaigns to increase mental health literacy and normalize discussions about suicide have likely helped facilitate disclosures. Most times, this means talking about it.


Asking someone about suicide risk indirectly can be more comfortable, such as checking in on how they are feeling or doing. But the question might be misunderstood or answered in a “socially desirable” way.


A conversation might go, “How are you doing?” with a response, “Yeah, not bad.”


General questions like "Are you OK?" might not work. Asking more direct questions might.


But research shows asking more direct questions does not increase their distress and does not cause someone to have more suicide-related thoughts or behaviours.


So, clear questions – such as “Are you having thoughts of ending your life?” or “Are you thinking about hurting yourself?” – may help draw an answer.


Asking about how safe they feel now can also be useful: “Do you feel safe at the moment?”


Offering the choice of not responding might lead to opportunities to ask about it later. You can say, “It’s OK if you don’t want to answer that right now.”


Talking about suicide can be difficult. But it is important to know we don’t need to be perfect at it, and we’re not tasked with trying to solve all of a person’s problems.


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You Can Really Help


For some people, thoughts of suicide reflect a negative or hopeless mental state but not an intent to harm themselves. Most people who have thoughts of suicide do not end their lives.


But what you can do for someone is significant.


First, the emotional support and acceptance you show by simply asking and listening are immensely important to help people feel understood and cared for. This can help normalize and de-stigmatize their experience. Depending on your relationship, you may want to know more about what drives those thoughts and being curious and non-judgmental can help.


Second, you can give simple, practical support by asking someone what they might need. You could try, “Is there anything you need right now? How can I help?”. You could encourage them to tell loved ones and support them in finding professional help. This might be their general practitioner or mental health professional to call a helpline or 000 if the person seems very unsafe.


If this has caused any distress from reading, please get in touch with a health professional, and talk to a loved one.


If you or someone you love is contemplating suicide, seek help immediately. For help 24/7, dial 988 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, or reach out to the Crisis Text Line by texting TALK to 741741. To find a therapist, visit the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.




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